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Santorum v. Feminists: Mom Talk

Modern day moms have choices, thanks to the radicals.

If Rick Santorum is to be believed, “the radical feminists succeeded in undermining the traditional family and convincing women that professional accomplishments are the key to happiness.”

As I sit at my kitchen counter nursing my newborn and attempting to earn a living, I can’t help but think Ricky boy is full of crap.

Yep, I’m a stay-at-home mom. I used to rock the suit every day. I worked in the Loop. I owned my own agency. I traveled the world. I climbed the corporate ladder. I hit the glass ceiling. I shattered it by choosing to stay at home with my kids.

First of all, I’m not buying the idea that the traditional family is entirely undermined. Nor do I agree with the premise that professional accomplishments can’t make women happy.

It is incredibly rewarding for me to contribute to our family’s financial goals. When my clients’ checks arrive, I love being able to turn them over to my husband. (Having been responsible for the ebb and flow of a $1 million business, paying bills is overrated.)

My paying jobs are no more rewarding to me than the exhilaration of watching our children grow, and play, and learn. I love the balance in my life.

I also chuckle at the “radical feminists" line. Really? What is that exactly? The feminist movement arose to give women choices, not limitations.

Gloria Steinem said that most women are one man away from welfare. That’s a pretty powerful statement. It’s largely true. If it weren’t for life insurance, it describes just about every family where the man is the breadwinner. Radical indeed.

Yes, I am one of the lucky ones. I have the opportunity to earn a living doing what I love while staying at home, working around my children’s routines. There are many more women who don’t have that option. Most families need two full-time incomes. In fact, two incomes at minimum wage are still below poverty level. What does that say about the traditional family?

Moms, we have to put our marriages and our children first. Part of that also means that we, ourselves, have to be happy. In the last three years I’ve been home, I never not once experienced people who look down their noses at me.

On the contrary, most of my friends are envious to some degree. Most women, I think, would work less if it meant they could spend more time at home with their families.

Working outside the home isn't required in order to claim the label “feminist." My option is to stay with my kids (and pray for naptime).

Thanks to the social revolutionaries, like Ms. Steinem, I have that choice. So Mr. Santorum, stick that in your pulpit and smoke it.

Tawanda The Avenger March 01, 2012 at 04:26 PM
@ Lee: nearly one billion in healthcare fraud uncovered so far..and that's what has been uncovered. Tawanda suspects there is a whole lot more where that came from and with the anti-fraud provisions in the healthcare reform act, expect to see a lot more indictments. One billion + is a huge chunk of change and applying this toward healthcare for the uninsured is the way to go.
Ray March 01, 2012 at 04:43 PM
Jeez - I've been pretty much on your side on this one, but this is old! Please, there will be more opportunities to laugh at Santorum, let's bury this one. (Besides, I cannot locate the "subscribe/unsubscribe" checkbox for some reason :( )
jaskie1505 March 01, 2012 at 05:00 PM
The best option here for everyone is for Tawanda and Lee to exchange phone numbers. Go on a date. Movie and dinner sounds good. Exchange your ideas face to face, and just leave us out of it. I'll even pay for the movie.
Ray March 01, 2012 at 05:33 PM
Good idea jaskie - and who knows where it will go from there? (Just remember to not use protection! :) )
Tawanda The Avenger March 01, 2012 at 10:48 PM
will Lee wear a sweater vest or dress as a ninja on our big date ? inquiring minds want to know...on second thought, no date. Tawanda hears conservative men are terrible lovers, and they know it. that which they cannot have, they regulate. It's been fun. see ya in the blogosphere. UNCLE
Joseph Sharp March 02, 2012 at 01:27 AM
Robert, 610 comments and you still have not retired this blog? Tawanda has given you the white flag.....end it!!!! Please.........For goodness sake, you have commentators offering to pay for a movie and date just to make it all stop. That could be a good sign that this has played itself out. Please, please, please Robert, make it stop!!!!
Tawanda The Avenger March 02, 2012 at 02:01 AM
who pays for the room.
David McLean March 02, 2012 at 03:19 AM
Censorship? I see Crtaigslist has removed your ad , 50 roses was a little to steep . At least we know why you need birth control.
jaskie1505 March 02, 2012 at 03:30 AM
Tawanda, where are you morals, your values. Shacking up with Lee on the first date. Bad Girl, Bad, Bad, Bad.
David McLean March 02, 2012 at 03:32 AM
Birth control for the masses, got rich college girls paying 65k a year and can't afford to go to Wal Mart and pay 5.00 for a months supply. My dogs heart worm pills cost more. Now all you poor ladies and er sl#ts, who bang away all night long, could we take a look in your purse and see how much you spend on make-up, what about your shoes, how often do you go out on the town or pay for resturant meals? You don't have 5.00 to pay for your pills? How much was your purse,sunglasses, cell phone, bra? You see your what we call bottom feeders, babies that will never grow up. Looking for free hand outs, Scum, this is nothing but a modification on welfare. Obama is doing such a great job, you don't even have 5.00 ha ha ha ha ha! Good I hope you like down there in the ghetto. When are you all going to grow up and be responsible for your own self. Nothing is free morons either the tax payers or insurance policy paying we the people will foot your bill. Pigs! If you can't afford it don't do it, or sell your a$$ and make some money. Most of you liberal ladies lay with 100's of men and or women before you get married, and probably have or had STD's how do I know? Cause your the ones begging for tesating and treatment. The liberal freaks of society. Thank you for your support. May 10,000 crabs infest you again! Liberal pig scum morons!!!!!!!!!!!
Tawanda The Avenger March 02, 2012 at 04:46 AM
@David McLean, who still has not taken his meds. Tawanda don't post on craigslist. Wrong Tawanda. Mousetraps don't chase mice. It's past your bed time; you have school tomorrow. sweet dreams.
Tawanda The Avenger March 02, 2012 at 04:58 AM
@David McLean, who really needs to take his meds: You sound like a bitter sexually repressed contemptous loser whose jealous of others who know how to enjoy sex for what it is. Don't fret, there's always mary and her sisters to practice being the worlds biggest loser on.
Tawanda The Avenger March 02, 2012 at 05:00 AM
@Jaskie1505: Tawanda's going to let you in on a secret: men love bad girls.
Tawanda The Avenger March 03, 2012 at 04:23 PM
@Dave McLean: you are filled with hate, rage and bigotry, not to mention a lot of pre-conceived notions. Tawanda lives in Naperville and works for a living and always has and always will. You, on the other hand, live in mama's basement and visits craigslist for your "dates " when you are not in fantasyland imagining your private plane and trips to tropical paradises with a bevy of hot desirable babes at your beck and call who want only you. Does preventing an unwanted pregnancy enter into your dream or are they all sterile in your dream ? You are inadequate and a loser with women and you know it. Your type thinks that by denying women access to contraceptives, you deny them their right to sexual freedom and, somehow this will " trickle down" to you actually having a woman of your own to literally control. No more trolling craigslist, Dave wins by default. The GOP has been damaged beyond repair by embracing that which a private and personal matter and one which was settled years ago. Because the GOP has no domestic or foreign policy, they focus on women's virginias like laser beams, insulting and demeaning women from all political walks of life, and as if that were not enough, the official head of the GOP, Rush Limbaugh uses the public airwaves to attack and verbally assault a young woman with a horrific misogynist tirade and so far, the GOP is silent. Not a peep, which means the GOP agrees with 4x married and childless Limbaugh's rage against women.
Tawanda The Avenger March 03, 2012 at 04:32 PM
The head of the GOP and frequent cpac speaker, 4X married drug abuser Rush Limbaugh has done more damage to the republicon party than the republicon party has done to itself in 4 years. The GOP had no right to get involved in contraception in the first place but this outrageous vicious anti-women tirade that Rush embarked upon will cost him his job and the GOP votes.
Bob Jonas March 03, 2012 at 05:36 PM
Have to agree with Tawanda on this one. Limbaugh really went overboard on this one. Glad to see the advertisers pulling their spots. He needs to be fired. Network anchors have been fired for less. Never been a Limbaugh fan, but if you are you need to BOYCOTT his show.
Bob Jonas March 03, 2012 at 06:12 PM
Peteee, oh Petee, you are ripe for the picking. First, anyone can be fired. He can fire himself by losing all his support. Radio stations can fire him, because they can't sell advertising. The public can fire him by not listening to him. Now that that is done. Based on your support, you just told people that you believe it is ok to demean women. So all women on birth control are sluts in your eyes. WOW. And you also support pornography. Go for it Petteee. Your probably better off wasting your time watching porn and more productive then what you contribute here.
Tawanda The Avenger March 03, 2012 at 07:52 PM
@petee: It is not OK to verbally assault and slander a young woman over the public airwaves for any reason. It is not OK to call a young woman a sl-ut, prostit-ute, to tell women that they should post porn videos of themselves " so we can watch " and to offer to pay for aspirin to be "placed between their knees". This is beyond reprehensible and outrageous and violates even the most basic of rules of decency and likely FCC regulations, too. This apparently OK with you. She must have asked for it and got what she deserved, right ? She should have aquiesced and shut up, like a good girl instead of a sl-ut. Where is your indignation and outrage ? This is not OK and as I stated, the GOP has been strangely silent; perhaps they agree ? I think so. There is a national boycott taking place against the sponsors of " excrement in broadcasting " aka: Rush Limbaugh Show. All decent people need to take a stand against this hate and misogyny. 4X married and no kids says either he was celibate or practiced birth control. Who is he or an yone else to stick their noses in private matters between a couple.
Tawanda The Avenger March 03, 2012 at 08:09 PM
@petee: I spelled republiCON correctly. You wish to establish a theocracy where one religion's rules are everyone's rules. Why suddenly has this even become an issue? Contraceptives should be covered by an employers insurance just like viagra is. This is 2012 and as hard to believe as it might be to you, people are have s-ex, just like they always have been and I do not see things changing, so deal with it. Besides, the pill is used for other reasons besides avoiding pregnancy. Contraception prevents abortion but not always. Should every egg in a woman's body be monitored and her uterus licensed ? Why not just imprison all women of child bearing age to make sure they are being " pure and chaste " and not sl-ut-s, as that drug addled blowhard soon to be out of work Rush calls them or make them wear berkas and stay indoors. Yes, indeed, Rush, thts a mighty fine kettle of fish you stirred up.
Bob Jonas March 03, 2012 at 11:44 PM
LMAO-your hero, Rushie Limbaughie apologizes for his his words. Worried about his loss of income. Poor boy. On NBC National news right now. Petee, your turn to apologize since your hero just did.
David McLean March 04, 2012 at 02:47 AM
Tawanda das Moron, let me get this striaght you have a job and can afford birth control pills from Wal Mart 5.00 a month but you don't want to pay for them because if you whine enough Papa Obama will get them for you free. But to your ignorance, what you really want is the working people to pay for your pills because you are a free loader. Humm! So why should I pay for them? What about the moron your doing it with why not make him pay for it? Would Jesus buy your pills? Your morals are zero, and you want me to worry about if you get pregnant or not, why should I care what business is it of mine? Keep your legs closed and act like a lady and all your fears are solved. To easy there's always the liberal way. Make somebody else care and pay for your mistakes, because your a liberal and your head is up in the clouds. Your sexual freedom, is a bottle of free birth control pills. Your a real bottom feeder. I don't know what happen to you in life to make you so twisted, but I'm sure it wasn't good. Well I'm off to Korea for business hope this blog is gone when I get back, it's so sad that this state is filled with morons like you, thats why were 65 billion in debt just from the teachers union. Wish I could help you but your to far gone. Coo Coo ville, your insane. Wow !
Tawanda The Avenger March 04, 2012 at 03:41 AM
@David McLean: Not only should you be on meds but meds via an IV pole and a straightjacket for added protection. You are delusional. What business is it of your whose getting some, unless you are jealous and repressed about your own jealousy. You seem to have more hangups than a telephone solicitor. Sheeh, it must really suck to be you. Let's see if ole Tawanda can help you get through the repression part of what is ailing you. You hate women because no women wants you in her bed. You are not getting any and are likely still " pure and chaste " keeping your little friend all nicely tucked away for that *special* moment that never seems to arrive and, likely, never will so you become angry and bitter, projecting all your hangups onto women. What's this part about " Keep your legs closed and act like a lady ." Who are you to define what it is or is not to be a lady ? You, living in mama's basement and sponging off relatives ? Man up and get a job, you wusbag.You have issues and conflicts that you should explore on your own; maybe a few weeks in therapy, preferably in house, but your type are so full of themselves that they even blame their dysfunctional thinking on women, never owning up.
Tawanda The Avenger March 04, 2012 at 03:57 AM
@Bob Jonas: His lame apology will make no difference. He went too far this time and his show sponsors and advertisers are running for cover. If he thinks he can verbally batter and degrade a woman on public airwaves and get away with this, he is about to have a rude awakening. There is a war against women in America. Everyday, it seems another women or young girl is the victim of violence. Rush commited verbal acts of violence against a woman repeatedly over a period of a few days while on the public airwaves and his day of reckoning has arrived, finally. Tawanda wonders if Rush will be filing for unemployment benefits.
Bob Jonas March 04, 2012 at 04:33 AM
Tawanda - I agree that Limbaugh's apology was sorely lacking any sincerity. I was also surprised in Mitt Romney's weak response and not condemning Limbaugh's comments. I sure do hope this is the beginning of the end for this man.
Tawanda The Avenger March 04, 2012 at 05:04 AM
@Bob Jonas: his sponsors are dropping Rush like a hot potato. one sponsor told Rush off. decent people are sick of this soulless jackass.
Erin Gallagher March 07, 2012 at 10:40 PM
Peteee363, your name is really Peter Edes and you write a blog for Bolingbrook Patch about photography. When you call someone names and use the vile names like you're calling me, please at least don't hide behind a fake identity. Here's a photo of Peter Edes. http://bolingbrook.patch.com/users/peter-edes/photos#photo-8391452
Nicole Webb September 23, 2012 at 11:07 PM
I hear Ya Man...It is crap that you all have such bad options...
Nicole Webb September 23, 2012 at 11:07 PM
I hear Ya Man...It is crap that you all have such bad options...
Nicole Webb September 24, 2012 at 12:15 AM
Independence666??? I always knew Liebertarianism was a form anti-christ thought. LOL, anyone who believes in not careing for your brother & only for oneself is going against the basic Christian tenant of being thy brother's keeper & caring about those of us less fortunate than ourselves & acutually going out of one's way to help one's neighbor. IJS
Nicole Webb September 24, 2012 at 12:31 AM
TO EVERYONE WHO REPLIED TO THIS STATEMENT: I am the Real Nicole Webb! I did not write this post! 1st of all, I do not remember even subscribing to this site so when I tried to login to post my correction, I could not! I then pushed "forgot my email address & password" & gave my current email address. I was sent an email that informed that my sign in email address was an emil address that I have stopped using and cancelled a year before the date of theis article. So I have registered as MY REAL SELF! I DID NOT WRITE THIS LIBERTARIAN RUBBISH! NOR AM I ON RICK SANTORUMS TEAM!! I CAN'T STAND RICK SANTORUMS BELIEF'S OR MITTENS ROMNEY'S. I WOULD NEVER SPEW SUCH TRITE GARBAGE!

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